Originally published 5/2/2012
Things to Stop Caring About:
It’s funny how much we care about things that we really shouldn’t care about. Drop these few things off your list and your life will dramatically improve.
1. Stop caring about other’s opinions of you.
I grew up very worried about what everyone thought of me, and as much as I’ve conquered this, I still have a long way to go. I often think about the career path I would have followed if I hadn’t been so worried about the opinions of others. Think about this: When you were young (like really young), what did you want to be when you grew up? What changed it? Had I not cared so much about what others thought of me, I’d be doing something far different in my life. I don’t regret the path I chose as it brought me to where I am today, but I definitely went through hardships because of these decisions.
Think about how different your high school years would have been had you not cared so much what everyone around you thought. I see the rising number of teen suicides and can’t help but think about this. I wasted so much of my life worrying about what everyone thought about me. The funny thing is, the people whose opinions I cared so much about back then (enough to drastically alter my life with personality changes, eating disorders and interest changes) are no longer in my life. The people who always loved me for exactly who I am are the people who are still around. How you feel about yourself if the only thing that matters.
Will Smith said it best when he said, “Too many people spend money they haven’t earned, to buy things they don’t want, to impress people they don’t like.”
2. Stop caring about looking a certain way
You don’t look like a super model. That’s OK! Have you ever seen a supermodel in real life? They are bony and undernourished and hungry all the time. This topic has been very difficult for me to talk about as I have such fluctuating body image issues, but it’s such an important one to address. We have been so inundated with images of women who are ‘perfect’ that we no longer understand that those women are not real. Women don’t normally have ribs, collarbones and hip bones showing while struggling to fit their DDD boobs into their size XS tops. This is not real. Yes, some women are naturally thin and they can surgically alter themselves, but until we start teaching our children that they don’t have to look this way, they are going to continue reaching for extremes.
Stop caring about what you look like to everyone else. Take care of yourself, be healthy and be you.
What’s making me smile right now: