Originally published 1/1/2012
- Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.
I have experienced this first hand. For some reason, we always seem to take for granted those fantastic people in our lives that appreciate and love us. Instead, we give more attention than what is deserved to the people that don’t deserve it at all. Sometimes taking a step back from these people will make them see all the great things that you’re actually doing for them. Sometimes they won’t. Don’t beat yourself up about this. It doesn’t make you any less than. It simply means that they didn’t deserve what you had to give. You can call them a jerk, an ass or a douche if it makes you feel better, but sometimes that’s life. I promise there are people out there that will love and appreciate you for the amazing person that you are.
A girlfriend said to me earlier this week, “You should never have to sell yourself to someone as to why they should be with you,” and this statement rang so true for me that I immediately wrote it down. How many times have you tried to convince someone they should be happy you’re there or that you’re worth it? If it’s even once, then that is one time too many. I’ve been there. I get it. Settling for being treated like that is never what should happen. You can be strong and walk away. When you really matter to someone, that person will make time for you. No excuses or broken promises. It might hurt to hear that but hopefully it will make you stop putting people on a pedestal that don’t deserve to be there.
Also, stop spending time with negative people. If your life isn’t where you want it to be, look at the people around you. Negative people bring out the negative in you. Have you ever noticed that you tend to feel down, depressed and have less motivation after you’ve been around these people? Those people who say, “Nothing good ever happens to me” will never attract anything good to happen to them until they change their attitudes. And the easiest way to change an attitude is to start hanging around people who have a more positive outlook on life. Being negative is a choice. Hanging around negative people is a choice. Make a new choice.
What’s making me smile right now: